Are You Encouraging or Cutting Others Down?
In a world that seems to be centered around what others think we resort to the likes, comments and views that social media gives us as encouragement. It’s how people want to be heard and noticed. Social media is viewed upon as a jury to validate success or fame. Right, wrong or indifferent it’s what both the youth and adults default to now.
With everyone focused on the online world we miss the human element of feelings and connection. One of the worst parts of the pandemic was the further disconnected people became from one another. Many were pushed into a world of zoom and online interactions. Communication suffered. The treatment of others suffered.
We’ve forgotten that kindness matters. We’ve forgotten that saying thank you matters. We’ve forgotten about other people’s feelings.
Instead of congratulating, celebrating and encouraging others, the instinct for many people is to cut others down, and criticize them.
We need to stop being critical of people who are doing what they enjoy. Stop judging people for doing what makes them happy and chasing their goals.
Growing up as a kid you’re encouraged to do whatever you want. To dream big. Try new and different things. Use your imagination.
But when you’re an adult, you can’t? Says who? Someone who decides to voice their opinion?
If someone starts a pizza place in town. Do you say they won’t make it? Do you cut them down for trying? Do you go to the national pizza chains purposely instead of their pizza place?
If you do this, why? Are you jealous that they’re chasing a dream? Are you upset that you’re not chasing your goal or dream and instead take it out on others? Maybe this means it’s time for you to act on your dream and stop taking your failure to act out on others.
We need to stop criticizing and having an opinion for people on everything that they do. Don’t tear someone down for trying. Maybe they’re new at it but it’s their dream and they’re giving it a shot.
Not everyone is the same. What’s important to one might not be as important to another. We don't all have to check the same boxes as another. It’s what makes us unique. It’s why everyone is different.
Encourage and support others. If they’re doing a good job, tell them. If you can help, offer to help. If you can give some insight or ideas to someone, do it.
Our treatment of others needs improvement. I can do better, you can do better, we all can do better.
The Coffee Table ☕
Ben Carlson wrote a post on housing called Why Aren’t Housing Prices Crashing? I told Ben that I had a post with the same title sitting to be written. After reading this, Ben has hit on everything happening at the current moment. An informative and well written post.
I enjoyed reading Noah Smith’s post on his Substack Noahpinion called The Build-Nothing Country. He has good researched details on what is going on with the inability to get things built in America. This problem has been a hot topic for some time and now we’re starting to see people like Noah explain where the problems are stemming from.
Jack Raines had a banger of a post called Infinite Games. A lot of great points in here about happiness not always coming from achievement and what is it that you’re actually pursuing.
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